Facebook = (usually) good, OCD = bad
Facebook = (usually) good, OCD = bad
So I agreed from the beginning that Facebook’ new “People You May Know” application was a bad bad idea. Now I have personal evidence of why I felt this. Logged in to find Sarah at the top of my list.
No kidding, d’ya think maybe I *might* know my maid of honour? Genius Facebook, you are soooo smart. Except for the whole “she is among the people who condone back-stabbing, verbal abuse, attempted murder, over-reaction, police-calling, defamation of character/libel/slander, taking-advantage-of-someone’s-mental-health-problems, power tripping, maliciousness” thing. I guess it can only be expected that a social networking website would not have any scope to take situations like this into account. But you’d think they would let you turn the damn thing OFF!
The reason she’s showing up is because I got a request from one of the YUM mommies. I’d taken most of them off because I couldn’t tolerate these kind of upsetting connections. And taken a break from my YUM group before (very hesitantly!) coming back this month when things seemed to be calmer. But this particular friend and I had reconnected over a particular tough situation she is going through and I really wanted to be able to support her through it in any way I can. So when I got the Facebook request, I said “yes” without even really thinking twice about it!
Two choices:
1. Delete this friend off of Facebook along with the other YUM mommies I’ve already deleted.
2. Keep her on my Facebook (and perhaps add a few of them back because I do really miss them), then just delete the “bad friends” who come up on Facebook’s “People you may know” feature as quick as they come through it and hope there are no other upsetting occurrences.
You’d think after obsessing about this for the past couple days I’d have made a decision by now.
Nope.
Because the kind of obsessing that OCD seems to force you to go through doesn’t seem the least bit constructive. 
Just spins you in circles around the same issues until you just want to throw up.
So I don’t know what I’m going to do.
Speaking of friends and issues and conflicts and the like, there’s a situation that happened in our tight-knit little “GHS gang” that I found out about last night and have to make some decisions about too. It’s sad, really, when stuff happens between/to friends. Our group has suffered and been broken up over the years as a result of other situations and it’s just awful for everyone.
On a positive note (’cause I realize all of this has been a vent/rant and probably a downer so thanks for reading if you did), I had a good day Friday and a pretty good day Saturday and had waaaay too much wine last night which was fun. 
June 22 2008 01:51 pm | OCD and friends and people suck
June 23rd, 2008 at 8:45 am
I’ve blocked you on Facebook, so you shouldn’t see my profile anymore. Go ahead and add whoever you want.